If you’re having one of those days when your dear hubby seems to have totally lost his vocal cords and would rather have his eyes glued to the TV rather than engage you in a debate on choosing the best detergent for the dishes, well you’re not alone. Women the world over often have problems with their men keeping their thoughts to themselves. We wish we could crack open their minds and take a peek at what’s going on inside. And when you’re out on a road trip and you find yourselves lost in the middle of nowhere, don’t be surprised if your husband would not stop for roadside assistance. Men just never stop to ask for directions.

These are just some of the things about men which continue to baffle us women. Understanding the male psyche proves to be one of the most challenging tasks a woman could possibly encounter in her lifetime. There are simply some male characteristics which we have to live with. These seem to have been hardwired into their beings, and all we can do is understand them.

For a marriage to succeed, it is important that the couple should spend quality time together. It means that there should be no distractions like work and kids. Job, children and other family members should not interfere with the marriage. Parenting your kids is not an excuse to spend less time as a couple. If you really want to spend quality time with your partner, you can find ways to do it:

• Schedule a day (it could be weekend or weekday) that you spend time together. Make sure that you follow the schedule. There is no need to go out of the house, you can just relax and watch your favorite movie together.
• Inform the kids that Mommy and Daddy should have special time together. So unless it is really an emergency situation, they can knock at your bedroom door.
• Run errand together, this give you the opportunity to talk while inside the car.

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It’s hard to teach an old dog new tricks, so teaching your hubby to think before he speaks may give you a run for your money. Since relationships are built on communication, it may help for you to just be honest to him about how you feel when he makes jokes about your weight, for instance. Try talking to him when both of you are in the best of moods, so that no other issue resurfaces. If he loves you, he should be open to how you feel, and be willing to make some adjustments with regards to the way he says things.

The first time I met him, I knew it was magic! Even at midday, I saw fireworks light up the sky.  His dashing good looks and undeniable sex appeal made it extremely difficult for me to concentrate on the movie we were watching on our first date. 

Fast forward to today… my dear husband still gives me butterflies in the stomach.  Despite the impending reality that he may have to use hair loss products in the near future :p, I still love him to bits, like it was the first day we met.

I guess that’s what true love means, however cheesy it may sound.  Love conquers time, space, bulging tummies and thinning hair.

You have a whole summer for you, the blue sea and your Diane von Furstenberg bathing suit. You’re more than happy, you are enitrely excited. But your boyfriend has a different opinion! It’s too hot,he does not find anything, service is hateful … and there is only one step until you start arguing. How do you avoid it? Here’s how!
We know that you do not stand his jealousy crisis or his lack of involvement, but don’t you think it would be better to settle disputes than to argue with him?

We believe it would be better to use some simple tricks to calm your “baby” angry and still enjoy the quiet holiday.

No matter what do not give him the satisfaction of ruining your holiday! Be calm, relaxed and you’ll see that eventually things will work. Under no circumstances do not give up vacation just because of his nasty replies.

1. Be a good listener
Do not swear him and do not minimize his “problems”. If he is not satisfied with the service, listen to him carefully and take account of his views.
In addition, keep conversation to a medium tone and do not let yourself govern by impulsive reactions. If you can avoid a potential conflict, do it!

2. Short visits and frequent
He does not like museums or cafes, but you really want to visit? Keep visits short and do not speak, tell him that you will stay only 30 minutes and make sure that you will not exceed the time allotted. If you prefer, you can make separate vacation plans. If you go to the same place, you can choose different routes and whileyou visit an exhibition, he can see the stadium a soccer team!

3. Positive conversations
Do you solve anything if you say no every five minutes? We tell you … NO! The key is to use positive affirmations and to have a more relaxed attitude. Do not tell him “We do not go to the game because I want to see a movie”, tell him” Let’s go to an outdoor movie, I want you to hold me in your arms and have an evening just for us. We can go next week the match. Please.”

4. Giving him the main place
We know that men want to be always in the spotlight. So use this as often as you can! Explain why it’s so important for you to join you and why you can not do without it.

In this way you managed to have him always beside you and your boyfriend will be very happy to know that you grant them so much attention.

5. Plan B
If your lover does not support climate, is allergic to food or plants, or is dissatisfied with the service, you should review the situation and if it is to benefit both of you choose another option.

Than two weeks living nightmare … better return home.

Warning: You might want to avoid talking after you have consumed alcohol. Perhaps local wine will give you a headache and feel like arguing. Trust us … not the case!

You had a serious argument with your boyfriend and now you do not know how to say “I’m sorry” ? You could solve the problem even after you have ended the quarrel, but neither had the feel to do it. Now you are in an uncomfortable situation and not know what to say? Say “I’m sorry”! How? Like this:

After the nerves have calmed, emotions returned to normal and your mind began to calmly analyze the situation, you understand that you have not been right.You would give anything to turn back time and have that beautiful relationship that you just “shake it”. You want to say “I’m sorry”, but you have no slightest idea how you will do that.

Read what we said and how your actions can make mistakes forgiven!

1. Delay the discussion

Unlike ladies, men’s prefer not to discuss “the situation” immediately after the fight. They will not stop from work to examine the causes and effects. Most times they let things run themselves and will “keep” their feelings until they finally flare.
So if you try hard to convince him to talk, you may come across many reactions, but certainly “forgiveness” is not one of them. Leave him alone to find time to forgive.

2. 15 academic minutes

Let your lover to breathe after the fight. Even if you have understood that you were wrong and you hurt him, your will desire to be forgiven immediately.
Before you seriously argue with him, try to see if such a conflict can be avoided, because healing time is much longer than you might think.

3. Relax

If you continue to have a “hysterical” attitude, you will not save the situation. The more you are restless and anxious, the more you risk to aggravate the problem.
Relax and let things come by themselves, to be sure that healing is natural.

4. Please …

How many times your mother told you to ask nicely before you ask something? So try to follow the rule also in a relationship.
Explain that you were wrong and ask him to forgive you.

5. Spoil him, but not too much

Try to favor and to show him how much you love him. For a few days let it be “the baby” of the house, but watch not to become an authentic spoiled .
But before you ask forgiveness be sure that you were wrong and is really angry, and it’s not pretending just to take advantages from “crisis”.

Children, bills, stress … only a few words that could describe a marriage! Or at least marriage as he is understood. Try to escape the routine and the monotony of a relationship using some new tricks successfully tested by us. Even if they seem insignificant, they will have an incredible impact!
Small details are the ones that give flavour to relationships! Do you remember that in the beginning you got drunk with his shirts scent’s or how you waited anxiously to see what flowers he will bring? How was your first date? But first holiday spent together?

Now you know why these small details mattered so much. Well, nothing prevents sparks from the beginning to be restored back to your relationship. You simply need a little help from us and some free time.

Here’s how to escape the routine which took possession of your relationship:

1. A mini vacation -The beauty of the weekend spent at mountain sites or in the European metropolis lies precisely in the short period in witch is unfold. Get rid of the reservations, baggage, nanny and everything. Get one weekend just for you! Drop 2 Dresses in the suitcase, get your lover by the hand and go!

2. An unannounced visit

For months you want to make a surprise to your lover, but you fail to find a free evening. What to do? Dress differently at the office and in the lunch break call him to drink a coffee. If your have one hour break, twenty-something minutes will remain when you can determine what to do tonight.

3. Your place

The bedroom is not your only sanctuary, you can use a guest room or basement! Make that place so he can play a little of your story.Use this place to be away from everyday problems and to enjoy a few moments together. No need to spend much time there, just to you remember how much you count for each other.

4. Naughty texts and promises

It’s not easy to be super-hot with some childs constantly walking around you and ask you to play with them. And it’s not easier when you’re at work and your colleagues always want something from you.

But even in these situations you can find a few minutes to send a clear message to your lover and promise him an exciting meeting.

5. Exercise together
Not many couples realize how important it is to spend hours in the gym together. You will be fit and happy at the same time.

Use every moment to enjoy your partner and to show that your relationship has changed, even if there are a few small problems.
6. News and happiness
Your relationship is not a fight, not a demonstration for your strength of conviction, but a representation of your happiness. So enjoy all you have and try to improve your relationship in any way.

Never say no before you try and don’t let your lover to think only your decisions matter.

It’s the only way you could escape the routine and enjoy your relationship.